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Anxiety Helps Reduce Sex In Young Adults

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Over the past 12 years, the number of young adults who renounce sex has more than doubled

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Why don’t young people have sex?

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It’s not just COVID, although that hasn’t helped – during the lockdown, health fears became a major killer for almost everyone. All the extra work, money and housing stress fueled by the pandemic were also not conducive to feeling dashing.

In what we call In the current “sexual recession”, young people under 35 have been particularly affected.

The Institute for Family Studies says that over the past twelve years, the number of young adults who renounce sex has more than doubled, from 8% to 21% between 2008 and 2021.

The Daily Mail reports that more women between the ages of 18 and 35 say they have not had sex in the past year than ever.

(Sexual abstinence has increased dramatically among very religious people, from 20% in 2008 to almost 60% in 2021, according to Christianity Today, and it has affected those numbers.)

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Overall, according to statistics, everyone has less sex. But the age cohort matters: Millennials have less sex than their parents and grandparents at the same age.

All the elements are in place to suggest that everyone should have sex more than ever: birth control is available, dating apps abound, porn is available to everyone, and society will tolerate just about everything except pedophilia and the usual taboos of incest and bestiality.

As Kate Julian writes in The Atlantic: “Within a generation, sex has gone from something most high school kids have been through to something most haven’t experienced. (And no, they don’t have oral sex instead. That rate hasn’t changed much.) “

Part of the problem is the lower rates of relationship formation. Fewer people get married and those who get married tend to get married later.

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About 60% of adults under 35 live without a partner, and a third of this age group still lives at home.

Some young people have traded real life for digital life.

Why don’t young people want to have relationships? Too much porn? Too many sophisticated sex toys? Too much casual sex? Too much screen time?

Or maybe not enough life experience.

Canadian sex therapist Alexandra Agar sees many young clients, especially women, who are struggling with their sex lives, and it’s worrying.

“The link between sex and happiness is well known. Your overall health is linked to your libido.

Agar, who practices in Los Angeles, said in a recent interview that she sees a lot of anxiety and depression in young adults. Most of the young women she sees suffer from stress that is exacerbated by the widespread use of dating apps.

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“That’s what everyone is doing now. There is so much competition, so much saturation. The chance to have a relationship just isn’t there. Some report that they never had a second date or maybe they did, but after that they were ghosts – how lucky are they to have sex with someone a ? “

The apps are more like a game than a dating aid, with new faces always available.

“Dating apps are not a substitute for an authentic meeting with someone.”

There are also a lot of self-esteem and self-confidence issues because of social media, Agar said, with Instagram models seen as the norm.

And the younger generation has poor social skills.

“They grew up with a phone in one hand and a tablet in the other. And play video games their whole life. They are so much less socialized than previous generations.

This put them at a disadvantage and fueled social anxiety; “With the pandemic in addition, some say they can’t even remember how to socialize, how to date them. They ask me things like “Who pays for dinner?” And “What should I do if I don’t like it?” “

“They don’t have the same social skills that we have developed,” she said, adding that it was baffling how many students were already seeing a sex therapist.

“They are so much more anxious than us. “

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