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How relationships have changed since the rise of dating apps (VIDEO)


By Newsy Staff
October 27, 2022

In this segment of “Love Life,” Newsy’s “In The Loop” explores how dating apps have changed the way singles find relationships.

Dating apps are common in this era. According to the latest Pew Research Center data on online dating, 30% of American adults say they have used a dating app. This figure is up from just 11% in 2013.

Therapist Matt Lundquist, who works with couples, says dating apps have popped up frequently in his sessions in recent years.

“Many of the couples we’ve seen that met through any dating app have been going up pretty steadily and continuously,” Lundquist said. “It’s accelerated even more during the pandemic, so it’s become a big part of people’s relationships and love lives. It’s sort of become the presumed way people connect and meet people at this day.”

But before dating apps, there were dating sites.

More and more people gained access to computers in the 80s and 90s. The 1998 romantic comedy “You’ve Got Mail” was one of pop culture’s first introductions to online dating.

This period also corresponds to the launch of the world’s first online dating site, Match.com.

In the early 2000s, other dating sites like eHarmony came into the picture. These dating sites required a detailed profile where users had to give good information about their life and interests.

Dating apps came nearly a decade later, originating in the gay community with platforms like Grindr launching in 2009. The goal was to connect single men in the same geographic area. In 2012, Tinder was launched which has been called a watershed moment for online dating.

But these apps are considered more casual, without detailed profiles like the dating sites that came before them. They became associated with “encounters” or just casual encounters, rather than regular encounters. Although there’s little research on dating apps because they’re still relatively new, experts say it’s because users can quickly peek into someone’s physical appearance and see if there is attraction before moving on to the next person.

Hinge came out in 2013, then Bumble came out in 2014 when a former Tinder executive decided to branch out and create a new kind of platform where women can make the first move.

Dating apps have expanded the pool of people you can meet, and users say they’re likely to meet people on the apps they wouldn’t have met otherwise. But Lundquist says that because of all these choices, dating apps can also be tiring. Additionally, attitudes toward dating have changed.

“There are a lot of people … who slip a little cynically, and almost expectantly when they open their phones and look at 10, 20 or 50 people, which is not an uncommon number to go through in one sitting, says Lundquist . “When they agree to go on a date with someone, the energy around them is really cynical, like, ‘Oh, I’m going on a date with someone from Bumble. It’s probably okay be awful.’ There’s just a lot of cynicism about it.”

An April survey of 500 people between the ages of 18 and 54 found that around 80% suffered from emotional exhaustion or fatigue with online dating.

That said, some people are very lucky with these apps and their relationships end in marriage. Pew says 12% of people have married or been in a committed relationship with someone they met on a dating app.

According to The Knot, last year Tinder was responsible for matching more than a quarter of newlyweds who met online, which may come as a surprise as many people know it as the app for more casual relationships. .

When online dating was newer, it was taboo. There used to be a stigma around meeting someone online, but as it has become the norm, experts say people are more honest about sharing where they met.

“I haven’t had a conversation with anyone about the stigma,” Lundquist said. “We don’t want to tell our friends that we met that way, or I don’t want to date that way because I don’t want to have to tell people that I met that way. I don’t haven’t had that conversation with people in probably three or four years at least. It’s really become the norm, at least among the types of people I see in therapy.