I find the shorter my advice, the more likely it is to be helpful â People change when they remember the main point. Therefore, I would bet that more people have changed from the saying, “Do random acts of kindness”, to tomes on the subject.
So, for each of Life’s 25 Major Problems, here are some tips, most in 25 words or less. Of course, all of them omit important information, but I hope the readership will benefit more from the five minutes spent reading this than, say, if I wrote the same number of words on any of the 25 topics.
The case of the solo: Many people are happier alone than in a couple. And it makes sense: you have more freedom, less compromise. Don’t pair up because that’s the norm.
Find Mr./Mrs. Right: One size doesn’t fit all. Take a look at your background as well as your intuition: How well should you use dating apps, setups, courses, and singles events?
Is he / she the right one? Once the fog of infatuation has lifted, you are in a better position to assess whether the person is kind, intelligent, ethical, likely to be self-reliant, devoid of a fatal flaw, and whether you love them.
Parenting Wisely: Only certain children need firm boundaries. And in case of bad behavior, failing to express disappointment with the child, which encourages intrinsic motivation, rather than jumping to punishments.
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Divorce: try to resist the practice of a lawyer. Try two mediators, one of your choice and one of your partner.
What to eat: Too often people forget about many healthy, delicious, cheap, and quick foods. Examples: grilled meat, steamed vegetables spiced to taste, salads loaded with your favorites, oatmeal, tuna, peanut butter, fruit, yogurt.
In restaurants: Many people find that traditional restaurants taste better and are much cheaper than frou-frou joints. Also, a careful no-deprivation approach: eat only one piece of bread, your favorite but low-calorie dish, and / or share a dessert.
Choosing a career: Browse the index to the Career Prospects Handbook and / or my book Careers for Dummies. Read through the profiles that interest you and, for any career that still intrigues you, check out the resources listed at the end of the profile.
Land the Job: If you’re a good networker and a good operator, use these skills to land a job. Otherwise, create a strong but honest CV and LinkedIn profile, and respond to well-tailored ads explaining why you’re a good fit.
Starting a business: You increase your chances with a low investment, low status business – the competition tends to be lower. My long-time favorite idea: gift baskets (sports items, Christmas presents, umbrellas, etc.) in high-rise halls.
Work-life balance? If your job is consistently worse than your home life, focus on the life part of work-life balance. If your life at work is better than your life at home, point it out.
Manage your time: have you ever wondered: should I do this? And if so, how can I be effective? Avoiding time is boring: too much TV, sports, unnecessary long journeys, etc.
Manage your stress: Short breaks from stretching and frequent breathing reduce stress more than frequent vacations of several days. Also have a perspective: does it really matter?
Host a meeting: Many meetings are unnecessary: ââuse email or Slack to send information and solicit feedback. Meetings, always with a tight agenda sent out in advance, are needed primarily for urgent group contributions.
Writing: Clarity and conciseness above all.
Public speaking: No memorization. No reading of your speech. On one index card, simply list a few talking points with examples or anecdotes.
Expenses: Spending to have a middle class lifestyle is often worth it, but not beyond. For example, buy quality mainstream brands: for example, Toyota, Samsung, Sony, Whirlpool, Casio.
Education: Unless your child can get into Harvard or Stanford without sacrificing a decent high school life, it may be wise to live at home while attending a local community college. Not only is the cost considerably lower, the education and quality of life at home also surprisingly tends to be better, and it’s generally easier to move up to a branded college as a junior than it is. In first year. This gives a brand name on the bachelor’s degree. (Sorry, it’s much more than 25 words, but I couldn’t resist.)
Savings: The Blackrock LifePath and Vanguard All-in-One series of funds are widely recommended. Whatever you invest, most people should fund their tax-efficient retirement plans first: 401K, IRA, Roth IRA, 457.
Give Wisely: Give to organizations that serve high potential people to benefit and contribute. My favorite: high performing kids in poor schools. While not tax deductible, donate to people with high potential as well.
Exercise: Yes, try to do well but don’t throw your golf club away. Try to win, but not at all costs, ethics first. Also support your teammates and opponents.
Learn to Play Music by Ear: Begin with the melody of “Mary Had a Little Lamb”, trial and error. When you know this, add a note of harmony every now and then. More advanced: Play roughly with your favorite recordings.
Diet: Throw away any excessively tempting high-calorie foods. Alcohol and weed stimulate appetite while reducing restraint. When you are hungry, repeat: only moderate portions; only eat until you are not hungry, not until it is stuffed.
Exercise: Aim for moderation. For example, walking may be better for you than running. Exercise for a total of 30 to 45 minutes most days. Make it easier: for example, walk from home or work. Or combine dinner with exercise before dinner.
Substance abuse, including tobacco: Many people abuse it out of boredom: Find healthy alternative activities. If your friends are abusers, should you make new friends?
So, are one or more of the above worth trying?
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You can contact Career and Personal Coach Dr. Marty Nemko at [email protected]
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