Several women are warning others not to match with a man named Caleb on dating apps after they all shared similar experiences of being ghosted by the alleged serial dater.
Accounts of the dating disasters have been documented on TikTok, where many women have revealed they met the same man named Caleb who allegedly works for furniture company West Elm.
In numerous videos shared on the platform, women have since described their own experiences with the man, since dubbed “West Elm Caleb”.
According to a woman, Kell, who goes by the username @kellsbellsbaby on TikTok, and who uploaded a video Tuesday of her interaction with Caleb, she was dating the West Elm employee, whom she described as tall. , artistic and having a mustache. , for six weeks when she found out through TikTok that he was lying to her and dating “every other woman” in her town.
In a follow-up video, Kell revealed that at first she received ‘really cute messages’ from Caleb, but grew suspicious after discovering he had apparently created identical Spotify playlists to send to different women. .
However, according to Kell, she and Caleb continued to go on several dates together, with the TikToker recalling how, over the next few weeks, he continued to text her to tell her how much he loved her.
In the clip, Kell then showed a screenshot of messages between her and Caleb, in which they discussed Hinge, which he said he deleted, and ghosting, before joking, “I’m ghosting you soon, don’t do not worry. “
“Apparently it’s not a joke,” she added, before explaining that Caleb had “randomly” stopped texting her “out of the blue” soon after.
According to Kell, she confronted him but he informed her that he just needed time to “chill out.” However, she later learned that he “goes on dates with other women”, apparently from a TikTok posted by a woman who goes by the name @meemshou.
In a TikTok posted a week ago, @meemshou shared a brief video joking about being ghosted, which she captioned, “This one is dedicated to Caleb. No hard feelings though, you were too big.
In a follow-up video titled: ‘West Elm Caleb: A Saga’, she explained that she was not going to make a video about her experience but felt it was her ‘duty’ to “warn my daughters about this Caleb from West Elm”.
In the clip, @meemshou revealed that after posting her first video about her own dating experience, she was contacted by many women asking if she was referring to “West Elm Caleb.”
She also revealed that she received a direct message from the man in question.
In the comments under his video, many TikTok users have since shared their own experiences matching, talking to and dating a Caleb who works in West Elm.
“He literally love bombarded me, dated me for a month, then ghosted me,” one person commented, while another said, “Omg stop. I went on a date. you with him a few months ago, he was texting so much he went ghost after inviting me to dinner LOL.
Someone else said: “We matched TWICE and we were talking and I put up this video and he IMMEDIATELY blocked me on everything hahaha.”
The video also sparked additional videos from TikTok users, with user @jewishbrat revealing that she matched Caleb, who is 25 according to a screenshot of his dating profile, on Bumble twice.
According to @jewishbrat, the second time she and Caleb paired up, she told him he already had her number, at which point he replied, “I don’t think I have it.”
A woman named Kate, who goes by the username @_katepear, also shared her experience with Caleb, revealing in a video posted Tuesday that she “has a West Elm Caleb story too.”
In the video, Kate recalled how she and Caleb hit it off on Hinge in late October, when he began “love bombarding” her.
After planning to go on a coffee date, Kate said she received a nude photo of Caleb, before he ghosted her the next day.
According to Kate, she then received a message from Caleb the following month, at which point he explained that he had stopped talking to her because he was “afraid” that she was going to “use [him] for [his] body”.
Caleb then added her on Snapchat, at which point she said he sent her another photo of himself.
“I texted him and said, ‘Are you completely crazy?’ And then he ghosted me again,” Kate recalled. “So that’s my West Elm Caleb story. You were warned.”
Regarding Caleb’s response to the viral videos, Kell revealed in a follow-up video that she sent him @meemshou’s video, at which point he said he was given the TikTok by a few co-workers and that it was “part of what was disgusting [him] outside”.
“I guess that girl just got a big following and talked about a big Caleb, so naturally some girls I matched with and stopped talking to asked her if that was me and then her did that apparently?” he wrote, according to a screenshot of their text messages.
Caleb also said he was “shocked and traumatized” by it all, before responding to the ghosting allegations, which he said resulted from the “nature of the app”.
“The nature of the app is very fleeting and ghosting is unfortunately only [part] I was on the app for a few months and met a lot of people before you… and the video just gave each of them a platform to comment without needing to validate their stories, so yeah, fine sure, that will sound bad.
Besides the women who shared their own experiences, the saga also inspired thousands of viewers to express their investment in the story.
“I live in Chicago but am incredibly invested,” one person wrote, while another said, “I discovered West Elm Caleb three minutes ago and am so invested.”
The Independent reached out to Kell, @meemshou, Kate and West Elm for comment.