The trope that Gen Z is online all the time has (re) tired. Because, given the year and a half we’ve all had, who isn’t? Whether it’s with the WFH or staying in touch with loved ones, any way of feeling less isolated is an opportunity. Fight pandemic fatigue and brave information overload to connect with people, especially the âyoung and restlessâ who are peaking, sitting at home. Needless to say, that all changed in 2020. The loss, desire and loneliness that the pandemic has created in the lives of young people have accelerated a new normal in their intention to date and forced them to watch and pursue relationships. in love in a different light. To find ways to reconnect with people on apps like Tinder. However, Generation Z is not afraid to give it all away; instead, they become more vocal and honest about their vulnerabilities with mentions of “anxiety” and “normalization” in their Tinder bios that develop during the pandemic (according to one study, the word “anxiety” has increased by 31%; “normalize” increased further) more than 15%).
So, is it cool to talk about mental health, anxiety, triggers and more on dating apps? On this World Mental Health Day, we caught up with Sonali Gupta, a clinical psychologist with over 16 years of experience to talk about the impact of the pandemic on mental health and the current behavior of Generation Z through the prism of encounters.
Recently there was a global outage where social media apps crashed and people couldn’t connect with loved ones. While it was unsettling at first, many felt a little relieved and wished it didn’t come back at all. Is it some sort of traumatic response in the aftermath of the pandemic and the information overload it has caused?
The past 18 months there has been a lot of uncertainty with the pandemic and most of us have felt overwhelmed and anxious to varying degrees. With our lives limited to screens, there has been a catastrophic increase in scrolling, information overload, and constant updating of news, it has all been exhausting. So a blackout also allows people to not feel (the fear of missing out) when it comes to not being updated with the news, new trends and there is also less pressure to feel guilty. productivity in the context of being aware of news and even conversations. The blackout made some people feel like they now have permission to stay away from their phones and even be around mindfully and not be constantly multitasking.
It has obviously been a difficult time for all of us. And now that we’re grappling with the “new normal”, what are the new dating standards among Gen Z? And how do they deal with it?
It has certainly been a difficult and difficult year. Over the past 18 months, Gen Z has found creative and new ways to stay connected and navigate dating, whether it’s virtual dates, video chats, or even choice in the context of who they connect to, where and where. Almost half of the videos of Tinder members chatting with a match during the pandemic, and 40% of members expressed their intention to continue using the video to get to know people even when the pandemic is over.
Do you think isolation will potentially lead to more serious long-term mental health issues for the younger generation when it comes to intimacy?
The pandemic has led many young people to feel isolated, alone and even without a community. As a therapist, I’m concerned that this will affect Gen Z’s accounts of self-esteem, anxiety, and even feelings of security. It can be very essential that at a systemic level we strive to address these concerns about isolation and loneliness in order to create a safe world for Gen Z.
Is there a strong and definitive change in the way Gen Z approached relationships before and after the pandemic?
One of the key insights from Tinder’s Future of Dating and Season of Love report is that dating is no longer about the familiar timeline or the slowness of courtship, but has become fluid in terms of expectations, emotions, and feelings. ‘experiences. The report found that 62% of singles are not looking for a committed relationship and prefer friendships with romantic potential, casual dating, while remaining elusive in defining what they want. More and more people want to “see where things are going”.
So even though the pandemic dramatically reduced the opportunities for chance encounters and interactions, human connection, especially among Generation Z, continued to endure, unconstrained by rules of physical distance and barriers (both social and physical). They creatively co-created and found new rules for meeting, spending time, and falling in love. Not surprisingly, knowing how Gen Z has always set their own pace, created their own rules, and thrived despite limitations and COVID has only accelerated that ingenuity.
Today, Generation Z is big on digital dates. According to a recent survey, singles see virtual dates as a low-pressure way to get a feel for someone, 68% finding it easier to make connections online and 67% finding more liberating to meet new people this way. They understand that virtual experiences are here to stay and have embraced it. When you meet someone in person, it can be difficult to do your best, especially if the meeting is unexpected. But when you’re on a dating app, you might find that you have more control over how you present yourself. 47% of Indian singles said they felt more creative today compared to 2020 and 94% of women said they found dating apps useful for keeping in touch and meeting new people. Many of the early initial dates moved away from the icebreakers to create shared experiences about the business and reflecting the greater need for connection.
Online dating has seen an advanced graph, but are dating apps in India equipped enough to create a safe space for the “young and restless?” “
During the pandemic, as the dating apps space flourished, forcing millions of users to use digital media and connect with each other, I noticed innovative apps to help create experiences. safer for its members. These range from introducing features that encourage vaccination to creating a trusted environment with features like safety centers. Starting from a dual-option swipe feature where users can’t connect with one another without mutual agreement, it’s a great way to provide members with the freedom to choose who they want to interact with. It’s also much easier today than before the pandemic to have autonomy over who you want to interact with long after you’ve logged in, thanks to features like Block Contacts. Additionally, features like profile and photo verification testify to the increased responsibility of apps to confirm that people on the platform are who they say they are. âDoes this bother you?â, Makes it easier for users to report offensive messages.
The latest âLet’s Talk Consentâ campaign is truly remarkable in that it takes the security experience of just being in the app to give people an understanding of the culture of consent and real-time security. Additionally, by partnering with influential voices in the digital arena and collaborating with experts and nonprofits to educate people on the nuances of consent, the dating app has succeeded in elevate conversations about consent and spark real talk about the topic; real enough to help foster a safe and healthy dating ecosystem.
A 2018 American Psychiatry Association survey found that Millennials are the most anxious generation overall. What are they most worried about? And what kind of effects might that have on relationship building?
I agree that Millennials have faced unique concerns which, in turn, have added to their anxiety. In my book Anxiety: Overcome and live without fear, I talk about how âthe popular tale of shaming millennials – calling them narcissists, titled ‘snowflakes – is problematic and contributes to the sense of anxiety with which they struggle â. Whether it was technology, social media, micro-influence, productivity guilt, the culture of restlessness and loneliness, it all contributed to their anxiety. In my experience, there has been a normalization of stress at work which is unhealthy and there is an increase in anxiety at work. In my book, I also mention how:
âMost millennials who start their job at age 21 reach their first burnout around the age of twenty-six or twenty-seven. Their second burnout is usually between the ages of twenty-nine and thirty. This is usually the time when most people ask for help and almost believe in its legitimacy as they now feel that a decade of work has cost time â.
The anxiety that millennials experience makes them extremely difficult to invest in taking care of themselves and has repercussions on their sleep but also on their relationships. The feeling of impostor syndrome makes it very difficult for them to trust themselves when it comes to work or relationships and hence, they struggle with compassion for themselves.
The pandemic has made many people averse to handshakes. How is Gen Z approaching the subject of sex in 2021?
What has changed is that there is a more conscious conversation around the boundaries, where Gen Z speaks more openly about their vaccine status, sometimes even taking a COVID test before meeting, openly discussing if they are. has symptoms in the past week / few days and even discuss whether they have been with other partners in the past few days: when it comes to sexual and physical intimacy.
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